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Thanksgiving Tree

Pinterest has been such an inspiration this year. As long as I don’t let the time get away from me too badly (admittedly easy enough to do), I feel like I get a ton of good ideas for the future. And more importantly I’ve already started multiple projects because of ideas I’ve gotten from other Pinners. It’ll be interesting to see if things like Facebook and Pinterest are around when the kids are grown up and come back to this scrapbook to see what the good ‘ol days were like. For now, it’s a phenomenon. Pinterest, I mean. πŸ™‚ Anyway…

Here’s one idea. I actually did a similar project for a Harvest Party I put together for the kids a few years ago while I was working at the Joshua Tree Library as the Children’s Librarian. It that instance, I created a tree out of brown paper and die cut leaves on poster board. All the kids who came to the program wrote down one thing they were grateful for and glued their leaf on the tree.

It’s a pretty common idea, the “Thanksgiving Tree”, but seeing different visuals online and combining those ideas with ideas of my own, gave it a breath of freshness for me. The basic idea is for each participant to write what they are thankful for down on a leaf and display it on the tree, usually 1 per day in November, leading up to Thanksgiving. Here’s what I’ve come up with so far.

I found the awesome vase in a 40% off sale at Michael’s, got the ribbon for cheap and bought the scrapbook paper also on sale 5 sheets for $1. The table I salvaged from a moving neighbor who was going to throw it away. The chair is an antique embroidered by my Great Grandma (Adela’s great, GREAT Grandma!). The same amazing woman also created the pretty little embroidered edge napkin underneath the vase. I have about 2 dozen different napkins she made by hand and a few quilts and tablecloths as well. I wish I’d had the chance to meet her. She was incredibly skilled.

The only expensive part of this project is the twigs. I’m ashamed to admit how much they cost. I couldn’t think of a tree type around here that would have worked to create the look I wanted. So I decided it was worth it (even at about 20 bucks), and hopefully they’ll last me many years to come.

I’m still trying to decide how to attach the leaves, which will be made out a variety of harvest colored papers. These are the three ideas I’ve narrowed it down to. The easiest is to simply punch a hole in the leaf and thread it onto a branch (left). I have a small scrapbooking hole punch which works nicely. The drawback is that all the leaves point down with this method. The second option is to punch a hole and then thread a small piece of floral wire through the hole attaching the other end to a branch (top). The wire is cool because it allows you to control the angle at which the leaf is diplayed. The third option? Cutting out 2 identical leaves and gluing the floral wire in between the 2 pieces, the most labor intensive method but also the prettiest. Craig also pointed out that the sandwiched wire looks like the vein of the leaf. Kind of cool. The jury is still out which method I’m going to stick with.

It’s going to look so pretty when it starts to get filled up with assorted leafs, colors and grateful thoughts. Also, I plan on keeping all the leaves from every year and doing something with them… maybe making some kind of paper garland… so that we can remember what we were grateful for in years past. Wouldn’t that make a cool decoration of sorts? That’s what I’m thinking anyway.

Adela is still too young to understand the concept of this tradition, but I want to start implementing some traditions now so that I’m not hit with it all at once. Besides I can’t think of a single person (myself most definitely included) that couldn’t stand a little more gratitude and a little more reflection on all the good things in life.

Mandy McMahan - Ok, first of all … your photos look GORGEOUS here. I’ve really been into very low post-processing and I love the natural look of these. Gorgeous. Like, I could look at these for several more minutes and just sigh at their beauty. πŸ™‚ Now, second. Big surprise here. We’re doing a thankful tree, too. Except we’re doing it the way you said you did it at the library. I’ve asked my mom for a bunch of huge sheets of colored paper (she’s a 3rd grade teacher) and I plan to make a poster-type tree for our laundry room door. Since this is Emma’s first year at school, I want to make this super interactive for her and making a paper poster tree seemed like a school activity. I totally have the stuff to make the decorative tree (and wanted to do that last year but never got around to it) and I think we’ll do that in later years. I love what you’ve put together — it looks so pretty. I wish I had a little more time to post my projects on my blogs too — I’m so grateful for yours. They’re all so fun to read. (P.S., I think you would rock at Project Life … I’ll write you more about that last message you left me about it giving you anxiety later.) πŸ™‚

A Typical Day at 22 Months

Where are the months going? I *just* did your monthly update. In exactly 2 months you will be 2 years old. Geez Louise. It’s getting harder and harder to keep up. The older you get, the faster time goes. Here’s the deal this month.

TALKING

You babble a lot. You pick up your play phones and you have full blown, correctly inflected conversations in gibberish. It’s adorable. But the words are very slow in coming. You’ve been saying Momma and Dadda forever. I think you figure that one of those 2 words gets you pretty much anything you need. So, I’m trying to be better about waiting until you attempt to do a little better job explaining what exactly you want rather than letting you rely on the inevitable momma-daughter telepathy that we enjoy. You don’t have to say it “right”, just try. You really don’t want to (try) a lot of the time. You look down and away and stick your lip out. It’s hilarious… and mind-boggling. I just don’t understand where the hesitance (embarrassment? inability? fear?) comes from. And it’s hard to know if I should do anything at all, and what that might be. I encourage you constantly, talk to you all the time, tell you what things are called in a no-pressure way all the time, get excited when you do use one of your few words and phrases {in addition to Momma and Dadda, mostly awa (water), nana (banana), mehma (mima), dah DUH (all done), DAAA! (yeah), dah (down), uh (up), da dow (fall down)}. I guess we’ll ask the doctor about it when we visit him for your 2 year check up. I’m doing my best to encourage you without pressuring you. No matter what, I don’t want you to be anybody that you aren’t. If it takes you a while to talk, that’s fine with me. I just want to do everything I can to support you and empower to do everything you are able to do.

You did add a new animal sound this month too. A whinny. Like as in a horse whinny. It’s so cute, and it sounds just like Momma’s. What a good like copy cat (er, horse) you are.

POTTY TRAINING

You’ve pooped in the toilet a few times now. But it’s always already been on its way by the time you’re on the seat. We considered starting full blown potty training, but I still think it might be a little too soon. You love sitting on the potty, and you love pulling on the toilet paper roll, you love wiping and dropping the paper in and flushing the toilet. But I think it’s a little bit too much of a game for you still. You will push on your stomach and grunt a little when we set you on the seat, but you sign “all done” before you’ve actually gone and sometimes clap your hands like you did something amazing, hehe. You *get* it, what’s supposed to happen, but you haven’t figured out how to control it yet. And you are totally aware of when you’re about to do the deed now. If we are watching you, you look at us, your eyebrows go up and you grab your diaper. But it’s hard to make it to the toilet in time. And it’s hard to catch you doing it. We’re getting closer. We’ll re-evaluate next month. Maybe by then you’ll be able to say “potty”. It would help if you were able to use a word to let us know when you have to go. I’m not in a huge hurry on this front. By 2 and a half hopefully.

DISCIPLINE

I realized I’ve never given an update on the hitting issue I mentioned a couple months ago. That lasted for maybe a week or two, kind of a little experiment you put on to see what would happen. It was never very aggressive or very frequent. It gave us a scare, but it went away on it’s own. You haven’t hit once that I know ofΒ  since then. Phew! I’m so glad.

In terms of what we’re doing to encourage you to make wise choices, not much is required. Just today we went to Home Depot and I let you run around outside of the cart (remember you are not even 2 years old!) for the majority of our visit. I told you to stay where Momma and Daddy could see you and you did at least 80% of time. Occasionally you would forget and start to go around a corner and I would call out, “Adela, over here, baby. Too far,” and you’d come toddling back over to us. You touch what we say you can touch for the most part (when we’re at the store if you can’t hurt and it can’t hurt you it’s fair game in my book ), and you listen and avoid things when we tell you it’s “yucky” or “ouchie”. I am beaming with pride right now. Honestly. You are truly amazing. Of course there are always exceptions, but not many.

You do throw the occasional fit. But they are always dramatic, but also always short-winded. When you get a hold of something you can’t have or you want something particularly badly you will cry and scream and babble about how unfair it is – emotionally distraught kind of fits. Discipline for us means that we don’t give in just because you’re creating a scene in a public place. You always calm down on your own. Usually within 30 seconds tops. We just explain to you that said object is “not for Adela” and try to tell you why not, if it’s something you might be able to understand. Not giving in is effective. When it comes to whining as well. Whining does not get you want you want, even if it means a fit. Of course, we cut you slack when we’ve kept you up too long or you don’t feel well, but for the most part, you have to ask (as best you can) in a “nice voice” when you want something. It took a while for Daddy to get used to the idea that sometimes you will cry in public, but he got on board pretty quickly and has made it easy to be consistent. In terms of punishment, we haven’t done anymore hand-slapping or time-outs. I think you’re too young, and honestly I think that – for you, right now – what we’re doing is enough.

FIRSTS

You grow ever more independent. I happened to have my camera out for a couple first times that show just how big and grown up you are this month. This is the first time you climbed down stairs without plopping on your butt, turning around, or holding onto railing or somebody else’s hand. You did it all by yourself. Five minutes later you forgot how and needed my help again. I think you did it this time without thinking about it. πŸ™‚

And the first time you went down the slide all by yourself without a push. You sat yourself down, pushed yourself over the edge and begged for more. Good job!

TOYS

Tia Carmen bought you this adorable Dora hairstyling set with a hair dryer that actually makes sound and blows air. It’s sooo cute. You carry it around and blow dry everybody’s hair – your own, Momma’s, Daddy’s and even puppy’s.

And you are totally in to stickers. Obsessed really. I guess that’s pretty normal. Stickers are cool. I do admit. But you will find one on anything anywhere and play with it until all the sticky is long gone and then cry and show me how it doesn’t work anymore. hehe, poor baby. πŸ™ Lately, we’ve had to watch you a little more closely in stores because you will pick price tags off of anything you can get your hands on. You are worth a different amount every day. One of these days somebody’s going to try and buy you.

And anything laying around the house that isn’t actually a toy is your favorite thing to play with. I had a lampshade from a broken lamp on a table in my bedroom for a few days and you put in on your head every chance you got. Headbands become funky glasses. If you can find a way to put it on, you will.

CUTE STUFF

You now “shhhhhh” with a finger in front of your lips when I say “inside voice, Adela” at times when your volume becomes a nuisance to other people around you. Except you can’t really make that sound… so it’s more like a heaving breathing sound in the back of your throat and nose. hehe

You do so many cute things with your hands these days. I have some photos I’ll show from our trip to Cambria last week I’ll share in a later post, but this little series shows a couple of them, my favorite being how you cover up your mouth with your hand when you’re excited, or surprised, or when something good or something bad happens in a movie and you want to show that you “get it.” You gasp and cover up your mouth and look at us. HAHA. Love it. You flip your hands over and splay your finger when you “don’t know.” And you point at everything interesting, *especially* airplanes, helicopters (what you were pointing out in the pic below), trucks and motorcycles. You love moving vehicles, which is awesome. Who says you have to be a boy to like engines? I’m totally going to get you toy version of one of the above for Christmas. The other thing you’re pointing at is an “ouie.” You get lots of those, real and imaged. And you always point them out and make sure they are kissed “all better” by whatever loving adult is nearby. You offer the same sympathetic smooches to us as well. It’s so, so sweet.

We’ve been really consistent about teaching you that you need to hold somebody’s hand when we’re in parking lots or streets. It’s paying off. You will actually stop at least 50% of the time without any prompting from us and put your hand up before crossing. Good girl! When you’re especially excited to be going somewhere, you make sure you have both hands extended (one for me and one for Daddy usually, or for Mima of course if she’s with us) and as soon as you grab hold, you put your head down and charge, dragging us behind you. It’s adorable.

I think I’ve mentioned your satisfied sighs before, but you do it more all the time and it’s really cute. Whenever you are excited about anything… or if you’re especially content or happy… you give a little satisfied sigh. It’s a very grown up display of emotion and it really just tickles me to no end.

You’re a skilled enough climber these days that you occasionally get stuck. But I always rescue you. πŸ™‚

Bed time sweetness continues. One of our newer traditions consists of me running through the list of everyone who loves you “Momma loves you. Daddy loves you. Granny loves you. Mima loves you,” etc. After every statement, you cuddle in deeper to my shoulder and nod your head emphatically. SO sweet.

And you are still spectacularly affectionate. You give random hugs and kisses all the time. You will run up and wrap your arms around my leg and run your hand up and down. And when I’m holding you, sometimes you will actually take your hand and turn my face toward you so that you can plant one on my lips. Be still my heart.

TIA KRISTY’S VISIT

We had a great visit with your Tia Kristy and Tio Brian while they were here visiting from the Dominican Republic. We did a lot. I didn’t have my camera out as much as I should have. I wanted to spend time with Kristy more than I wanted to be the photographer. We did manage a photo with the entire family (thanks Tia Carmen for taking it! Good job!!) and a few of you playing around with your youngest Tia. She’s really good with you. We can’t wait to have her back in the states (and for her to start giving you some cousins to play with). πŸ˜‰

Β And my favorite photo from the month. Taken with the camera hung around my neck on a self-timer while I spun you around by your arms in our driveway. You look terrified, but it was a transient emotion. In reality, you LOVE been spun and flipped and wrestled with. This one just makes me smile. You have such a beautiful, expressive face, baby girl.

So many photos this month. Lots more Tot school and lots of photos from our trip to Cambria coming up. And next week, we’re going back to Oceanside! It’s been a fun couple of months with lots still to look forward to.

Amanda - *sigh* When I read your posts I nod in understanding, laugh, and cry a little bit. I’m so glad our kids are so close in age. Adela is so cute and you have the most amazing ability to catch her doing unbelievably adorable things.

Tot School – Leaves!

Β The simplest thing, just a couple bags of dollar store plastic fall leaves. We don’t get the beautiful autumn colors here (SIGH). Someday we will take you to New England to see what fall really looks like. The Northwest is beautiful too, but nothing compares to the Northeast when it comes to the third season of the year. It’s unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.

Okay, that was a tangent. But I’m feeling nostalgic and a little homesick for places other than the desert. We do get fall here, thank goodness. It’s just not as dramatic and beautiful as other places we’ve lived. I want you to be able to experience the whole sensory experience of a REAL fall. Chilly air, changing falling crunching leaves, the smell of plants becoming fertilizer for next year’s generation. I LOVE fall. It makes me tear up I love it so much. I’m really grateful we still live in a place where the seasons change, but I will probably never get over missing the Northeast at this time of year.Β  Nothing compares with the back country roads, farms, pumpkin patches and general feeling of a New England fall. But at least we still get our Pumpkin Spice lattes, even here in the desert, hehe. Believe it or not, that actually helps. πŸ™‚ And we still have our version of pumpkin patches and holiday decorations.

This is a cheap, cheap substitute for a real fall leaf pile. But you still had fun. You threw them up the air, stood under a shower of leaves as I dropped them, took them in and out of your bin, stomped them and pushed the bin around through them like it was a little car driving through the leaf strewn countryside.

It’s not a substitute. We’ll find you a real leaf pile to play in, baby. But I think this helped start getting us into the fall spirit. We have all three of our birthdays, halloween (harvest party), Thanksgiving and Christams to look forward to in the next 3 months. This is the BEST time of year! I know you’ll love it as much as we do.

Tot School Begins!

{ASIDE: There are so many things that I want to remember about our daily life as a family. The primary goal of this blog is of course for us to be able to remember, to keep a firm hold on our memories so that they don’t slip away from us. The secondary goal is to be able to share what’s going on in our lives with friends and family in a more as-it-happens kind of way. I did the hobby blog thing for a while and it got to be overwhelming, and it got a lot of attention from people we don’t know. Whatever I write, whatever I do, the goal isn’t notoriety. It’s more personal than that. So, with that in mind, the “Tranmers at Home” blog is going to branch out a little bit to include more than just ‘Dela’s Scrapbook. But I’m doing it for us, not for the masses. So these posts are meant to be tagged or shared, just enjoyed by us and our friends.

One area that is changing in our daily life, and one that I’m not really sure how best to categorize/commemorate yet, is branching into the idea of “homeschooling.” (I’m the kind of person who as a child had a different drawer for each of my collections and sorted my clothes by color.) But rather than getting hung up on how to organize it, I’m just going to start doing it. I can always reorganize it later. :)}

To Homeschool?

Hey Baby! The school year has begun. You’re too little for school of course. But seriously, the amount of stimulation you can handle and actually NEED to keep you entertained is ever-increasing. Whether we’re going to end up homeschooling you or sending you to school is something that we are still thinking and praying over. I’m actually really torn. I can’t actually imagine sending you away for hours every day. It seems like letting someone else raise my child. I have no desire to get my “free-time” back. I’d rather have you home. Good, bad or indifferent, that’s where I’m at right now.

In so many ways, I believe that we, that I (since I would be your primary instructor), could do a better (or at least as good) job teaching you academics and making sure you are also learning practical, real-life skills than a traditional classroom could provide. I was homeschooled from 5th to 10th grade. I went to college when I was 16 and earned an Associate’s Degree by the time I was 18, took some time off, and then earned a Bachelor’s degree. I got great grades. I learned a lot (don’t let all the typos in this blog fool you, haha.) I had no problem adjusting to a classroom. I have great memories of spending time at home with your Tia Kristy and Mima. And I got a lot of hands-on homemaking experience doing not-so-fun things like ironing and dusting and the super fun things like baking and sewing. I learned to love being at home in addition to academics. I am a big fan of homeschooling done right.

I had a ton of friends who were home-schooled at the same time as I was and we had a great homeschooling community through our church. I probably had more quality social interaction than a lot ofΒ  kids who attended traditional school. My question is, can I provide that same kind of social environment for you? As much as I wish I was enough and that I could be your all-in-all, I’m not and I can’t. I can’t replace the interaction you’d get from other kids your age… and other authority figures, other adults. I don’t want you to miss out on anything. How do I make sure you get everything? We’re only in the very beginning stages of figuring all this out, but it’s certainly on my mind a lot.

Tot School!

For now, we’re having fun with “tot school” which isn’t actually school. It’s nothing structured or rigid. It’s just fun, skill-building, mind-stimulating activities that allow to to explore and get to know your world. And I’ve been having a blast with it, and with the idea of “activity bins.” There are so many ideas and so many ways of doing things out there. Homeschooling has changed A LOT since the days when Mima had to figure everything out through paper and phone calls. Now, we have the Internet and a wealth of homeschooling bloggers who love to share all their cool ideas. I’m overwhelmed by the wealth of ideas and information available. It’s hard to know where to start. My new creed is “Do What You Can With What You Have Where You Are.” So many things get put off because I don’t know exactly how or exactly what or where to start.

My “where to start” for Tot school was in a bin of stuff I had left-over from my 2 years as a Children’s Librarian. I forgot I had all this stuff! A wealth of research, crafts, songs, story times themes, activity ideas, supplies and custom props I bought and made to use in my Children’s programs. I mean, duh! You just grew up all of a sudden I guess. The last time I thought about all this stuff, you were too young for it. Not any more. πŸ™‚ You’re a big girl now and you’re starting to participate in the activities put in front of you. So, I put together the little I know with the little I have and started some activity bins for you.

Some of the bins I was able to put together with stuff I already had include…

a musical instrument bin

a sponge shape bin for painting or water play

a fall leaf bin

a colored scarves bin

a jingle bell bin

a finger puppet bin

and more…

Since then, I’ve been to the dollar store and invested a few more dollars and have a TON of other ideas. Here’s what your play shelf looks like now. You point and I get one down for you. You either play by yourself – if it’s a free play activity like the fall leaves bin – or I do the activity with you – if it’s a more involved/messy and requires some adult participation like a painting bin.

Here’s a couple activities I put together for you before the activity bins started coming together. We started an “Alphabet Book” where we look through a magazine together and find things that start with a given letter of the alphabet. Then you watch Momma cut it out (or you help me tear it out) and we glue it on a page for that letter. We don’t do it every day and we don’t do more than one letter per day. But eventually we’ll have a book with every letter of the alphabet. You are barely old enough for this, but you really do participate amazingly well. You will sometimes mimic the sound the letter makes when I show you first and you love to point out the things when I ask you “where is the ____?” You don’t especially love sticky fingers, but you always help me press down the pictures when we glue them. Preventing you from trying to peel them back up is the hard part. hehe

And this is still your favorite activity so far, of all the activities you’ve done in the past several weeks. I keep changing it up a little bit and you just love it. Any combination of kitchen utensils, bowls, and dry pasta. This keeps you entertained for a good hour just about every time. And it doesn’t make a hard-to-clean-up mess! Pure genius.

Lots more Tot School to come! And lots of to homeschool or not to homeschool decisions to be prayed and made. I love having you home, baby girl. There’s no doubt about that.

Mandy McMahan - Loved this! I love to hear your thoughts about homeschooling. My neighbor (mother of six kids under the age of 10) homeschools ALL her kids. And just today, she was telling me about how four of her kids can read … and the idea that SHE is the sole person who taught them to read is just amazing. She inspires me. Right now, I love Emma’s preschool. LOVE. And she loves it. But it’s only 2.5 hours a day, twice a week. And it’s GOOD for her to have that time away from home to be “adventurous” on her own (because our girl is anything BUT adventurous). But I love the points you made in this post. And I kind of love the thought of how you were homeschooled not for the early years but the latter years, when maybe the peer pressure out in the school system gets even harder. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this — I know this blog is mainly for your family, but I adore seeing where you are on things and gaining inspiration from your awesome ideas. I’m TOTALLY doing that alphabet book with magazine cut-outs with Emma. She’d LOVE that! She loves to work with scissors and she loves to read (yes, she’s started reading!) and she’d love having her own ABC scrapbook to work on. Can’t wait to hear more about tot school with Adela! Awesome stuff so far! πŸ™‚